Article Review: What Shamu Taught Me About a Happy Marriage

Since I’m very much into the art of communicating without using words (although I get it’s really hard..since we suck at communicating with words too...I’ll blog about that later) this article was a neat read. It’s written by a woman who observed animals being trained and then used the same techniques on her husband...and they worked!

Here are some quick pointers:

• My Favorite: if your partner does something that you like, PRAISE THEM! We don’t do this enough in our relationships. Humans are all about silently being happy and voicing when we are annoyed. In the English dictionary, we have more negative verbs than positive ones. Just like an animal trainer gives treats for performing a trick...so should we praise people when they do something nice for us. If someone isn’t calling you as often as you’d like, why not tell them you appreciate it when they do call next time you are on the phone with them instead of saying “you don’t care enough about me” or something along those lines.

•          If your partner does something negative, ignore it...(this means don’t even say it annoys you) Eventually the negative behaviour stops if it doesn't get acknowledged

 DISCLAIMER: this works for naggy little annoyances...if this is a bigger issue, you better communicate it (respectfully) with words

Read the full article here.

Happy D-Coding,

Darya